Authenticity & Self-Appreciation

I had the pleasure of visiting Joshua Tree for the first time last month. Inspired by the beauty of our surroundings, my friends and I decided to do some yoga and snap a few photos. I thought: what a great idea for my website! But then…nope, my form isn’t right on that one; nope, look at how unflattering that one is; nope, my expression is terrible; oof, that angle, no way. And on and on. I caught myself caring more about my appearance than the beauty of the moment. What kind of example do I lead by being so hypercritical of myself? I would never treat my clients the way I sometimes treat myself. This made me think about how the example I lead (recognizing faults) does not align with my message (recognizing accomplishments) and how the wellness industry in general can inadvertently promote perfection over progress.

I am very candid about my experience with body dysmorphia while working in the fitness industry. Afterall, I’m aware that it’s common for people to hire trainers based on appearances. It’s easy to think, “that person looks great and must know what they are doing. I’m going to hire them so I can look like that!” We all know someone who stays thin regardless of how they eat, and/or someone that eats purposefully but can’t seem to keep off the weight. I know people that have high BMIs that eat well, exercise, and are in great condition. I also know people with low BMIs that eat anything and as much as they want, never exercise, and develop health issues as a result. Likewise, I know personal trainers that are naturally athletic, yoga instructors that have always been limber, and people in both categories that experience body dysmorphia, disordered eating, acquire chronic injury from overexertion, or even get cosmetic surgery to look “fit.” Anyone who claims staying fit is easy probably has a genetic makeup that makes it that way or lying to try to get you to buy what they’re selling. It isn’t easy for most of us, but it doesn’t have to be that hard either. You just have to be realistic about what you’re working with, what you’re willing to put into it (i.e., the rest of your life), and then accept the outcome based on your unique circumstances. If I expect my clients to accept these circumstances, then I had better lead by example.

I never pretend to have all the answers and I will never try to sell you on a one-size fits all mentality. Everyone is different, it takes trial and error to see what works, and you might find your goals change in the process. My hope is that by being vulnerable and authentic with my experience I can create a warm space for you to be open about yours, identify your innate gifts, and celebrate your accomplishments. We will therefore focus on expanding our perspectives and work toward radical self-acceptance in this week’s classes.

I encourage you to write down 8 natural talents or advantages that you have. Having a hard time knowing where to start? Contact me for your free consultation and I can promise you we can find way more than 8!